There is a concept in life called ‘finishing’. Here’s how it works.

We all have relationships, experiences, and lessons in life that are sometimes painful, difficult, and for whatever reason, hard to process. As a result, we walk around with certain feelings, patterns, and conflicts that do not really relate to the present but to people and events from a previous time. Because these things are not ‘finished’, they get in the way of present situations, present relationships, or present goals. And the sad thing is, this baggage that we carry does not go away until it is dealt with or finished.
p. 48, god will make a way, drs. Cloud and Townsend